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13th-Jun-2011 09:49 pm - Passport control
 Hello all!

My husband and I (husband is from the US, I'm from the UK. We live in the UK) are going to the States in October, it'll be the first time we've travelled there since getting married. Will I be able to go with him at passport control? I've kept my maiden name in my passport but I'm planning on taking our wedding certificate and a letter from work saying I have a job to go back to. 

Really hope I can just so I don't have to stand in the massive line for non US citizens whilst he looks on and laughs at me.

EDIT: Thanks everyone, just the news I wanted :D
16th-Mar-2011 06:24 pm - Not so happy ending...
So I originally posted here over 5 years ago - I had met a fabulous British guy, you guys helped me with information on student visas and I came over to England, studied for 3 years, we got married, moved to Stratford-upon-Avon to live happily ever after. Except, we didn't. With less than 10 months left on my 2 year year spousal visa, he has told me he doesn't love me and wants a divorce. Not exactly what I was expecting since I'd only married him a year and a half previously.

Fast forward 6 weeks and we are now agreed to start a trial separation in May. I realise this isn't ideal in visa terms, but I have looked it up on the home office site and it says we only have to alert them if our relationship breaks down beyond repair. Obviously, this is up to interpretation, but I can only see 3 options. One, we work things out and stay married and I then apply for IRL a month before my visa expires. Two, we do not work things out, I get a company to sponsor me or accepted back to another university (for a postgraduate course) and switch to a work or student visa, and alert the home office. Three, things do not work out, and I leave the country before my visa expires, alert the home office, and work with my husband to file for divorce. If there are any options I'm missing here - by all means, let me know! I'm also curious how realistic it is to get a company to sponsor you for a work permit - I suppose this depends on my education, experience and skills?

Lastly, I'm wondering those of you who either are British, or have lived in Britain and moved back to America - how bad was the culture shock? Did you find it more difficult than expected? easier? about the same? Was it dependant on where you moved in America, whether you had family/friends there, etc? If it helps I've been living in the Midlands the last 5+ years and would be looking to move to Portland, Oregon...
4th-Dec-2010 09:40 pm - Help!
Lunara by Magpie
Hi everyone!

As you may have seen from my introduction, I am a Yank who has a wonderful Englishman. We've been best friends since 2004, and will be a couple for two years this coming March. I've seen him at his place in Chesterfield back this past June and July. For me, it solidified my resolve that England is where I will be happy. I graduate from college here in Summer or Fall of next year, and so figured I'd best get digging for info.

So, I've been on the UKBA site, looking for information on visas. The unmarried visa looks to be the best option, since sadly, my beloved doesn't want to marry just yet. The only hang up is that the visa requires the couple to be able to support themselves financially without government aid, and that's fair enough. I'm wanting to get a job and work there, and he's got one himself. However, I'm worried it may not be enough.. and I'm scared I may not be able to get a job as soon as I get there.

I am hoping so much that someone here will be able to know more than I do about this, and can shed some more light.
27th-Oct-2010 07:48 pm(no subject)
At the advice of several people, I am asking my ex to sign a letter for my trip to the UK, basically stating that I'm not going to overstay my visit because our son is staying in the US. I'm not really sure how to word this and googling isn't giving me any samples. Does anyone have a handy copy of such a letter that they've used? Or even a letter from a boss or whatever so I can just see the basic format/what info to include/etc. I'm probably way overthinking this, but I'm nervous since I don't have any other real ties to the US. :/ I don't want to be denied entry!
22nd-Oct-2010 11:57 pm - not so happy of a post...
Hello from England! I posted a while back about my boyfriend and I, but I'll refresh your memory... I'm fom Philadelphia, PA and he's from Manchester, England. I met him when he came here to visit over the summer for holiday.... and we spent every minute of his time here together...we liked each other a LOT and he asked me to be his girlfriend before he flew back to england and I said yes even though I was nervous about the long distance thing.

SO he went back home, things were going great, we talked on Skype, sent each other mail, etc. I bought plane tickets to come visit him as soon as I could afford them, had the tickets bought since the end of August to come in October to see him.

Well, now I'm here and he's decided he doesn't think things will work out. He's only 21 (I'm 24), and I just don't think he's got the maturity needed to sustain a long-distance relationship. He said that he thinks maybe he acted too quickly, rushed into things and wasn't ready for what a long-distance (or any relationship, for that matter, I think) actually entails. Needless to say I am pretty heart-broken and sad over it, kinda wishing he had said something before I spent the money on plane tickets, but I guess he just recently realized it might not work out. :( Puts me in a pretty shitty position, being that we had this conversation the first day I got here. I leave the 25th to fly back home. I've tried to make the best of my time here, visiting London and Bristol and trying to have a good time despite everything, but it's been hard.

It's hard to go backwards... from someone telling you they love you and are so excited for you to come visit, to getting there and finding out maybe he doesn't actually love you and just got caught up in the moment, oops. Well. Sorry to depress anyone, just had to vent somewhere. Not looking forward to going home and breaking the news to my friends, since all of them had their doubts about the relationship working from the beginning. :/

To everyone still in love with their brit/yank partner, I envy you and wish you all the best of luck. <3
19th-Oct-2010 07:56 am - Hello
Sorry new to the community here and been reading through some of the entries. And I wanted to share my story and hopefully get some advice.

I am a US citizen and in December I will be Flying to England to spend 3 months with my boyfriend who is a UK citizen. There have been mild chats of Marriage but nothing has been confirmed.

I have a gut feeling that he is going to propose to me over the holiday's and if that happens is there anything I can do to not have to return to the US. I know that we would want to marry right away.

He and I have been in an on and off again relationship for over 16 years just a lot of wild circumstances have kept us from getting together in the past. He has proposed to me twice before when I was younger but I was afraid and really not ready back then to make such a giant move away from my family.

I have always loved him and it would make me the happiest woman alive if we were able to marry with out me having to come all the way back over to the states and spend an eternity saving up again for another flight over.

If anyone knows of a way that I can possibly change status or how we can get married so we don't have to be ripped apart again that would be brilliant.

Thank you.
8th-Oct-2010 07:15 pm - What now?? Haha
arrogance, funny, dominance, superior, chuch
Hey, I've only sporadically ever posted here in the past, but I've always enjoyed reading people's stories and journeys to being together properly.

To cut a long story short, I've bought an Engagement Ring and plan to propose to my girlfriend when she flie over to London in 6 weeks. I just sort of wondered where most people went from here? I don't think we'll be getting married for another 2 years or so, but I'm really unsure as to what changes once we're engaged, what our options are, etc, etc.

I understand its a complicated process and that there is plenty of information on embassy and immigration websites and so on, but I always found the information there fairly convoluted and wondered if anybody who has gone or is going through this process first hand could offer any clear advice or insight?

Thanks everybody!
29th-Sep-2010 02:21 pm - Mini Yank&Brit
Well, I think we first posted in this community over 5 years ago.  Maybe it's been 6? 
Anyway we made a mini Yank&Brit,  Alexander.  Lucky little kid will get dual citizenship and never go through all the hassles we did. 

For those of you who spend hours and hours missing your significant other across the pond or have to face those challenges of time zones and distances and finances of flying back and forth--just remember it won't be forever.  Eventually things come together. Nicely.
24th-Sep-2010 04:52 pm(no subject)
Hey all. :) I just came over from loversfaraway and figured I'd join up here too. Here is my intro survey:

Name: Jessica
SO's name: Adam
Your ages: I'm 24 and he is 29.
How long have you been together? We've been together since June. We've known each other for eight years and had a sort of informal relationship six years ago. This is our second try at things. :)
How did you meet? We used to run a mutual friend's web forum together.
Where are you both from? (i.e.Are you still on opposite sides of the Atlantic, or has one of you "hopped the pond," as it were? :) I'm in California and he is in Grimsby. The plan is for him to move here sometime next year. We're both disappointed since we'd prefer to live in England, but custody arrangements with my son's father mean I have to stay here.
Any plans for the future? He's pretty much told me that he's going to propose to me when I visit in November, and like I mentioned, he'll be moving here.
Anything else you'd like to share with us? We're really amazed that we're getting this second chance to make things work. We were both silly and immature the first time around and then later we fell out of touch for about a year, but a tragedy brought us back together and now we finally have an opportunity to try again. A lot of things have changed - we got older, I had a baby and I'm not as thin as I used to be ;) - but we're determined to have things go the right way this time.
Any pics? We love pictures! I sort of HATE the pictures of us together, haha, but here, have a few.

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So I'm really excited about my trip to England in November! It's the first time I've ever been out of the country and I've only been on a plane at all a handful of times. The things I'm looking forward to most (aside from seeing him of course!) are meeting his friends, POSSIBLY getting to see snow for the FIRST TIME EVER, and some of the touristy things we're going to do in Nottingham, York, and Leeds. :) I'm worried about freezing my tush off though, this California girl definitely isn't used to cold weather.

Question: I'm going for two weeks and websites say I don't need a travel visa or anything, but I'm wondering if there is anything I need to do/bring other than my passport...? It seems too easy, haha.
23rd-Aug-2010 10:31 pm - newbie
hey guys... i just found this community through the recommendation of my sister. I just recently got into a relationship with my british friend joe... obv first post here, so i'll fill out the survery so we can all become acquainted. :)

Name: Kira
SO's name: Joey
Your ages: i'm 23 and he's 21
How long have you been together? since the end of july
How did you meet? my friend hosted him and his friend through couchsurfing.com, and we met through her, at a bar (lol)
Where are you both from? (i.e.Are you still on opposite sides of the Atlantic, or has one of you "hopped the pond," as it were? :) I'm from NJ originally, I now live in south philly, where I met Joe. Joe is from Lancaster, England, and he came here to visit...
Any plans for the future? We are currently dating, and trying to save up money to visit one another. I am looking to go over to England for the first time (EVARR!) in October.
Anything else you'd like to share with us? I need support! This is the first real long -distance relationship I've really been in, but within the 2 weeks that Joe and I spent together, we both found something in the other that can't really be put into words. I feel so comfortable and loved with him, so I really want this to work. Just am unsure how to deal with the distance factor! :/
Any pics? We love pictures!
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i haven't been on lj for forever and half so sorry if i effed up any of the codes! :)
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